Class today was a lot of fun. We had great discussions over portions of The Lion, the Witch, and the Wardrobe and various allegorical aspects of it. Then this afternoon, I met with my tandem partner for a couple of hours to talk. I have a meeting this evening with a presentation group from my sci-fi class. We have a presentation on Octavia Butler’s “Bloodchild.”
Today I was considering the various things that have changed since coming to Germany and will change in my life when I return to the United States. There are some things that I will have to get used to again:
1. Bread and water automatically being provided at most restaurants
2. Water not being carbonated
3. Not having prices per unit given in the grocery store
4. Different bus lines for different directions
5. Showing a bus pass on public transportation
6. How date and time formats are written
7. Teachers having frequent office hours
8. Life moving at a faster pace (meals, classes, school in general…funny, because Germans tend to think that Americans are more relaxed, something with which I do not think I would agree)
9. A lack of German extreme-punctuality and general “brusque-ness”(which is actually in direct opposition to number eight)
10. A lack of paperwork and bureaucracy (the amount necessary for registration with the city and the university here in Marburg verged on ridiculous)
11. Being able to take leftovers from restaurants (this is frowned upon in Germany)
12. Having waiters come to the table many times during a meal to check in on the customers.
13. Waiting to be seated in restaurants (in Germany, one can generally sit wherever is desired and the waiter will come to you)
14. A sad lack of soft pretzels in most American bakeries
15. Following number fourteen, the lack of a bakery (or two) on nearly every city block
16. Counting with the thumb last (only used in “five”) instead of the thumb first (used for “one”)
17. The first floor of a building being called “Floor 1” (in Germany, “Floor 1” refers to the American second floor)
18. American prices for many things in-store not being listed to include sales tax
19. Not having eighteen million garbage and recycling bins. Okay, I jest, but there are usually five to seven different bins in places like German cafeterias
20. Not being able to just take bottles back to the grocery store to recycle and get back the bottle deposit from them (I just had a moment when I could not think of the phrase “bottle deposit,” but I could think of the German word, pfand)
21. Seeing policemen all over towns (If you see lots of policemen in Germany, it typically means there is a problem)
22. Going back to the American system of measurements (This is not meant to be arrogant, but the metric system really is logically better)
And finally, that which I feel like I will maintain when I return, but that I developed here:
1. Using a fork or knife with my left hand
2. Writing in cursive (it is much easier to write with a fountain pen if it is in cursive)
I think that there are a decent number of things that I have gotten used to that I would be glad to bring back and continue in the United States. But these German customs are just that – German. No matter how cool they might be, to maintain them in America can only be seen as arrogant or inappropriately different. “When in Rome, do as the Romans do” goes the saying, and the same is true here. We expect foreigners to adopt our customs when they come to the United States, and I believe the same is true for Americans like me who are returning to their home country. Sadly, one of the most disappointing things I have seen in my study abroad program is Americans who refuse to adapt to German ways of life while living here in Germany. Culture and cultural differences are a two way street.
My list of differences I gave may sound as though I am disappointed to be returning to the United States. On the contrary, I enjoy the American way of life, and I have greatly appreciated this opportunity for living out a comparison and experience in another culture.
Aside from the above, there are certainly other examples that I am not thinking of right now. Two articles that I found incredibly interesting (if not a bit long) are here, the first dealing mainly with American-German cultural differences in business and the second in many aspects of life (organised by section for ease of reference). The first: http://www.howtogermany.com/pages/living.html and the second: http://math-www.uni-paderborn.de/~axel/us-d.html . One of the smallest things I think I will miss is sales tax not being included in the listed price of an item in-store. It really is very helpful to me. Now I just need to remember to change my computer format back to that of the United States…